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the people who tear you down

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Yesterday, Jasmine Star’s post got me thinking. And only God knows how many people she touched because within that same day, I was face-to-face with the naysayers in my own life.

One of the comments someone left on her blog stood out to me: “I already deal with doubt coming from myself; I don’t need it from anyone else.”

But, despite our hard days and sometimes harder nights, we have to be rooting for ourselves. If we aren’t who else will be? And how can we defend ourselves among those who feast upon any sign of our weakness?

I’m just going to try to love them from afar. As I’ve come to discover more of who I am and what I want out of life, I realize that my soul, the thing in the deepest part of who I am, cannot be destroyed by anyone but myself. I just can’t let their abuse weigh me down anymore. The more you push me, naysayer, the more I’m aware of how much I don’t want to be doing the thing you’re asking. I know who I am and the naysayer wanting me to be someone else will not change me. Sometimes love can be smothering if you portray it to be based on conditions you require of someone, despite the fact that you believe you love them unconditionally. I know this because I myself have given love with the expectation of it being returned. But no amount of “loving” me will make me live the life you want me to live. And no amount of love can make someone feel the way you want them to feel. The real magic is in loving that person enough to let them make their own decisions. Including the decision to love you back. The only person you can control is you. I can’t control what a naysayer says but I can control how I respond to them. And I won’t let them disturb my peace anymore. I hope you won’t either. We have much more important things to be doing.

on vulnerability

because everybody needs to listen to a video like this at least once in their life. but usually multiple times.


“Stop focusing on the trauma. It’s done. Stop re-energizing it. Let it go.

And guess what? Now that it’s over there, say, “Hey, I went through a bit of trauma over there. Got a bit of self hate: dealing with that right now. But you know the best part is now that I’m through it, I’m grateful because I can help anybody around me and I can liberate them through their own, and through every person that I free I will feel grateful for the trauma that I suffered because I identify with you and I know where you’ve been and I know that there’s light at the end of the tunnel. And you can choose to walk down it and walk out of it.”

I’ve come to understand one thing and that one thing is this: nothing the world throws at me now will ever stop me or keep me down, it will only help me empower myself and others. And for as long as I have somebody who is interested in hearing that, I will keep repeating it.”

-Sue Bryce